What is a boundary and why are they important? If you are drawn to this site and my work chances are you are an empathic natured person who is interested in personal growth and a curiosity for energy work! You may find being sensitive you have a natural talent for tuning into everyone else’s emotions, taking on energy that isn’t yours and find putting in energetic boundaries really hard!

Having poor energetic boundaries leads to feeling heavy, depleted, taken advantage of or walked over. You want to say “No”, when it comes out as a “Yes”, you feel guilty and end up looking after everyone else instead of yourself. Boundaries teach people how to treat you, they are an energetic fence line and you get to respect yourself and your life force. Remember the saying “you cannot give from an empty cup”, boundaries are a form of self love and respect. The healthiest relationships respect each others boundaries!

A common excuse that I hear is ” I want everyone to be happy”! While this is a lovely thought, this is not sustainable and you are actually doing the other person an injustice by taking on their energy and emotions. Maybe you want to make their life easier because you care and you feel sorry for them, so you soak up all their low vibrational energy, they feel better and then you feel terrible! We all come into this world with lessons to learn and while taking on others energy may seem like a good idea at the time, we can lose sight of our own lessons and the other person can also begin to get used to you taking on their stuff.

The best way to check in with your boundaries and see if they are being over stepped is to feel into your belly. This part of us is often referred to as the 2nd brain, if it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. If you struggle with boundaries remember it is going to feel hard saying No! Once you have done so you will feel empowered and confident, this process will get easier. If you are really finding this tough, you can also ask yourself what do you gain from saying Yes when you mean No? Maybe its a sense of being needed or loved or included, it could be approval or a need to be seen as kind etc. What is it for you? Self awareness will be key to helping you navigate boundaries and begin to love and respect your precious energy.

Everything is energy! Be mindful of what you are saying Yes to and what you are allowing into your field! When energy becomes toxic our immune system and physical health can be impacted, not to mention the busy mind or sleep being disturbed. If you need some extra assistance with boundaries or a fresh start to put some firm, strong energetic boundaries in place reach out!

Rebecca x